“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you- all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and becoming who you are.” -Rachel Naomi Remen
Did you know that so much of our healing, from any hurtful or toxic event, depends on our attitude? How we feel about ourselves, our choices, and whether or not we have a strong sense of self, all impact our healing process.
As children, if we have a weak sense of self, we can easily become followers. We may develop a “black-and-white” (“ all or none”) style of thinking because we haven’t been allowed (or had an opportunity) to develop necessary critical thinking skills. When we have faulty thinking skills, the very idea of making a decision can cause anxiety and fear. When this happens, we’d rather let someone else make our choices for us, than make them ourselves. As we mature and become adults, it becomes easy to give up our personal power. We’ve learned that handing over our power to someone else will free us from the anxiety and/or fear that come from the very idea that we might make a poor choice.