Talking with Your Narcissistic Mother

Have you ever felt apprehensive about interacting or talking with your mother? That could be a signal that you feel unsafe to some degree, emotionally or physically. Remember, you have intuition and it’s there to protect you. It’s important to acknowledge what your intuition suggests without judging or assigning any value, like “bad” or “wrong.” Affirm yourself by accepting the feelings you have about talking with your mother and acknowledging that you have reason to feel the way you do. Recognize that what you are sensing is valid, and honor that. Don’t lie to yourself, don’t gaslight yourself. This could be a turning point for healing. It’s time to be real.

“With a narcissistic mother, we’re not allowed to express feelings like anger, and we’re certainly not allowed to talk back or disagree. We can’t show happiness, have fun, or be silly without earning her disapproval.”

If your mother has narcissistic traits or is a narcissist, then it’s improbable that you’ll be able to have that heart-to-heart connection with her that you’ve always longed for. You know: where you can just visit peacefully, enjoy each other’s company, and relate. In your fantasy, you feel lighthearted, and being with her feels easy. You laugh, and you feel safe and comfortable. In your imaginary time together, your mother doesn’t judge you, criticize, or make barbed comments, and you don’t have to justify and defend your every thought, feeling, or choice. In your fantasy, your mother accepts and supports you, she hears you, she sees you, and you feel as though you matter a great deal to her. You feel secure in knowing she’s got your back.

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Talking With Your Narcissistic Mother
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If you feel apprehensive or awkward at the thought of having a serious talk with your mother, it’s a signal that you feel unsafe to some degree. Remember, your intuition is there to protect you. It’s important to acknowledge what your intuition suggests without judging or assigning any kind of value, such as “bad” or “wrong.” Begin to validate yourself by accepting your feelings about talking with your mother and that you have reason to feel the way you do. Recognize that what you sense is valid and honor that. Don’t lie to yourself; don’t gaslight yourself. This is a turning point for healing. It’s time to be real.
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