Understanding the Impact of Narcissistic Family Dynamics

Growing up in a family with a narcissistic caretaker can be a challenging experience.

The word “abuse” carries a heavy weight of shame.

Many of us will downplay our painful childhood experiences because we don’t want to label our caretakers as “abusers” or ourselves as victims. Our reluctance to acknowledge the truth of our childhood reality can lead to feelings of shame that impact our core identity. Those of us who have endured traumatic events at the hands of our caretakers may also experience humiliation and compare ourselves negatively to others.

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Golden, Invisible, and Scapegoat Children
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We may intentionally minimize our painful childhood experiences because we don’t want to think of our mothers as “abusers” or ourselves as unwitting targets. Having those kinds of thoughts can cause us to feel more ashamed, and that affects our core identity. Those of us who’ve experienced traumatic childhood events at the hands of our mothers may feel a sense of disgust or humiliation in addition to shame, and we see ourselves in a negative light when we compare ourselves with others. There’s a particularly dysfunctional family dynamic in which one of the children becomes “idealized," the clear parental favorite, known as the “Golden Child.," and the other children take turns being devalued and blamed.
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