Welcome to The Toolbox! This is a safe space.
The TOOLBOX is a place to nurture and redefine yourself after involvement in a non-nurturing, or unsupportive relationship. This is a safe space to learn skills and strategies to change yourself, your relationships, challenge your thinking and take back your personal power. It’s a place to begin healing and moving forward from the effects of emotionally absent people, unsupportive relationships, narcissists, and self-focused mothers aka “Lemon Moms.”
What’s a Lemon Mom? A Lemon Mom has some narcissistic traits; she may be somewhere on the narcissism spectrum or she may have full-blown, diagnosable Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She lacks the capacity to bond with or love her children unconditionally. Her children may grow up feeling “not good enough,” confused, unloved, misunderstood, unimportant, or invisible, believing they don’t matter or have no influence. As adults they continue disliking, ignoring, or neglecting themselves, taking unnecessary risks, being attracted to people who aren’t good for them, minimizing themselves so others can feel good, staying in hurtful relationships, and putting themselves last, if at all.
On this site, diagnoses are irrelevant! If someone’s personality traits negatively impact your life, or cause you pain, that’s what’s important to know and change. This site is about recognizing how someone’s emotional absence, mental illness, or distorted thinking affects you, and applying what you learn to improve your life.
I wrote the book “Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism” (and the rest of the lemon Moms series) as a way to safely walk through the chaos and confusion of narcissistic behavior; defining what it is, what it does, and more importantly, how to move on from its devastating effects. I use a laid-back narrative, personal examples, and action-oriented steps. I teach you how to decode the crazy-making behavior, use healthy coping skills and strategies to begin healing, and move forward to live your best life.
I write from my own personal healing journey, information provided by professional therapists, researchers, and my education and field experience in Human Services, specifically domestic violence and abuse.
I hope you enjoy reading and learning what’s here. I especially hope that you celebrate your progress and keep moving forward in your own healing journey.
I urge you to do the work necessary to move forward.
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