Healing begins with awareness, understanding, and action.
Are you confused or hurt by your mother?
Is your relationship less than satisfying, or even hurtful? Are you afraid of, or intimidated by her? If so, you can learn to reduce the emotional pain and take back your personal power. Let author Diane Metcalf, survivor of narcissistic abuse syndrome, show you how.Me too
I call these kinds of mothers “lemon moms.” They parent mainly by manipulating, guilting, shaming, blaming, humiliating and/or belittling. They lack the ability to properly bond with and emotionally nurture their children. The children grow up feeling “not good enough,” unloved, misunderstood, unimportant, and like they don’t matter.
For as long as I can remember, there was something “different” about my mother. She wasn’t like other mothers.
By the time I was in middle school, I’d met a lot of moms, and I’d witnessed their interactions with their kids. My mom didn’t act like them; she didn’t relate to me the way they did with their kids. She seemed to have no interest in me or anything that I did.
No boundaries, name-calling, invalidation, neglect
I stayed up as late as I wanted. I was not allowed to openly express feelings, ask questions, or show initiative or curiosity. My feelings were discounted, minimized or invalidated. Asking questions or taking action meant I was challenging mother, and that was not tolerated. She re-wrote my memories and I was expected to believe her version. I was to obey, stay quiet and not question.
My mom called me hurtful names and obscenities, and at times she ignored me, not speaking to me for days, weeks, even months at a time.
In dysfunctional families, there’s an unspoken rule: don’t talk, don’t trust, don’t feel. As an adult, I was done living by those rules. I started an ongoing journey to find peace.
If any part of this sounds familiar, you are not alone. If there’s a pattern of manipulation, power struggles, or cruelty in your relationship, this book can help. If you find yourself second-guessing your memory, doubting your judgment or sanity, or you’re continually seeking your mother’s withheld affection, attention, or approval, this book can explain why.Your mother doesn’t need a formal “diagnosis” for you to determine that your relationship is unhealthy. If it is, you can do something about it.
Until now, you had two choices: live on her terms (focusing on her, chasing after her withheld love and acceptance) or go “no contact.” I suggest that you have a third option: allow me to walk with you through the chaos and confusion that is maternal narcissism. I’ll show you how to decode the crazy-making behavior, heal the damage and take back your personal power.
The “Lemon Moms Companion Workbook,” is your safe space for healing.
Your mother doesn’t need a diagnosis to determine that your relationship with her is unhealthy. If you like detailed writing, personal examples, and a touch of humor, you’ll love the author’s authenticity and conversational style.
Combined with the book “Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism,” you’ll walk through the chaos and confusion of maternal narcissism: what it is, what it does, and how to recover from its devastating effects. Thought-provoking questions and action-oriented steps help you gain insight and perspective for beginning, or continuing in, your healing journey. Heal the damage and move forward to live your best life!
You’ll learn how to:
- remove the drama from interactions with your mother
- set personal boundaries
- identify and shut down manipulative attempts
- identify gaslighting and heal cognitive dissonance
- identify dissociation
- take control of your personal power
- move forward in life and much more!;
Down to earth author… conversational tone… humor…compassion…current and detailed information.
“AFFIRMATIONAL THERAPY MAY BE THE ONE EFFECTIVE HEALING TECHNIQUE YOU HAVEN’T TRIED YET!”
If you live with a narcissist, dysfunctional or toxic person, or have one in your life… you already know how much it negatively affects what you think, how you feel, and how you treat yourself. You can change that!
It’s time to take your healing a step further! Start healing the damage by changing how you see yourself. When you change your self-talk, you literally change your mindset and perspective! Start seeing how good life can look. Start living your best life!
You can’t change others, but you can absolutely change yourself! When you go from unsupportive inner dialogue to affirming who you are as your authentic self, every day, you literally change your self-identity.
By using healing affirmations, you will begin to:
- reinforce a new self-narrative
- see yourself differently
- adopt a broader definition of your “identity”
- adopt a broader definition of your roles
- define things like “success” differently
This book shows you the research:
- explains how and why affirmations work
- teaches you, step-by-step, using a simple formula, how to write effective, action-oriented healing affirmations of your own.
You’ll also learn how to:
- apply the four daily fundamentals
- make your healing affirmations resonate highly
- use particular steps to make them the most powerful
- make them the most effective
Over 200 pre-written healing affirmations! Use them as-is, or personalize them using the steps and dedicated space provided in each chapter to make them your own.
Aligns with topics discussed in book #1 “Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism”-
- gaslighting and confusion
- betrayal wounds
- emotional abandonment
- and cognitive dissonance.
Examines emotional regulation, self-validation, boundaries, self-trust, safety, security, and discovering your authentic self.