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    Welcome to The Toolbox! This is a safe space.

    The TOOLBOX is a place to learn healthy coping skills, challenge your thinking, and take back your personal power. It’s a place to begin learning how to move on from the effects of toxic people, unhealthy relationships, and especially narcissistic mothers (“Lemon Moms”).

    What’s a Lemon Mom? She’s a mom who lacks the ability to love & nurture her children, accept them, or help them feel safe & secure. Her children grow up to feel “not good enough,” unloved, misunderstood, unimportant, & adopt the belief that they don’t matter.

    As I’m fond of saying, your mother doesn’t need a formal “diagnosis” for you to determine that your relationship with her is unhealthy, or to start making positive changes.

    I wrote “Lemon Moms: A Guide to Understand and Survive Maternal Narcissism” as a way to safely walk fellow travelers through the chaos and confusion of maternal narcissism: what it is, what it does, and how to move on from its effects. With laid back narrative, personal examples, and action-oriented steps, it teaches you how to decode the crazy-making behavior, and learn new coping skills and strategies to move forward and live your best life.

    Much of what I write here is based, and expands, on what’s in the book. It is a combination of my education, knowledge, and personal healing journey regarding my childhood and adult mother/daughter experiences. I hope you learn a lot and enjoy what’s here. I especially hope that you celebrate your progress and keep moving forward.

    Do the work.

    Diane Metcalf


    NEW 2021 RELEASE!

    “SELF-AFFIRMATIONAL THERAPY MAY BE THE ONE EFFECTIVE TECHNIQUE YOU HAVEN’T TRIED YET!”

    If you live with a narcissist, dysfunctional or toxic person, or have one in your life… you already know how much it negatively affects what you think, how you feel, and how you treat yourself. You can change that!

    It’s time to take your growth a step further! Start changing how you see yourself. When you go from unsupportive inner dialogue to affirming who you are as your authentic self, every day, you can literally change your self-identity. When you change your self-talk, you can literally change your mindset and perspective!